Your mind: “No no do not even think about talking to that person; they might judge you and think you are weird.” Immediately you avoid talking to that individual completely.
” The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do “
Let me tell you something. I was so socially inept that I would totally avoid any social situation at all costs. Multiple times I would go to a social function and immediately leave. “Will this get me anywhere in life?” I asked myself. “Will I ever be able to break out of my shell?” I have come to the realization that my mind is not me and I am not my mind.
Here are five practical ways to finally erase that socially anxious side.
- Talk Yourself into Positivity
Literally talk to yourself. Why? Our mind ruminates on negativity. It is actually addicted to negativity. How about this. Switch that internal dialogue to positive self-talk. Examples include “I got this. I can command the room with my presence and be calm, cool and collective. I know my self-worth.” Change that negative dialogue into positive dialogue. It does wonders!
2. Become Uncomfortable with the Unknown
How do you get out of your shell? By forcing yourself to talk to anyone. Approaching strangers is terrifying. But this is a good thing! Feeling uncomfortable is the best feeling afterward..trust me. I’ve been through this situation multiple times. Once the conversation starts to flow, things just get easier from there.
3. Conquer your Thoughts
Training your mind, or rewiring, in a new way of thinking is possible. Being mindful about your thoughts will enable you to react in a certain way in situations. I started my meditation practice very slowly and built it up from there. I can now catch my mind going into a dark hole before negativity takes over.
Mindfulness allows you to choose not to react to your thoughts. It trains you not to believe what your mind says when its flooded with negativity. The best way to practice mindfulness is through a disciplined and consistent meditation. There are many meditation techniques that will help reduce anxiety. Check out my article on transcendental meditation and its many benefits.
4. Regain Control of Your Lifestyle
Certain lifestyle changes can really improve your self esteem and reduce your anxiety levels. Excerssing daily and eating a well balanced diet will make you feel like a new human being altogether. Eliminating alcohol will also boost your self esteeem; you no longer need a crtutch when going out with people. You can finally be yourself!
I’ve eliminated alcohol and implemented a healthy diet plus a consistent exercise routine. The changes I have seen and others have seen in myself are beyond belief. Feelings of excitement and confidence are the two most common side affects I wake up with each morning. Sleep is also crucial for attention, retention and forming new connections in the brain. Get that 6-7 hours in each night!
5. Learn Something new Everyday
Even if it means reading 30 pages of a book everyday. Studies have shown that reading can reduce anxiety and encourage personal growth. Educate yourself on any interesting topic so you can use that knowledge and inspire or share it with other people. Plus, people will start coming to you for advice and look up to you. This will give you more confidence in the long run.
Social anxiety cripples every area of your life. From relationships, physical and mental health. Rewiring your mind takes time but the benefits in the long run outweigh the costs. Take time each day and remember your “why”; “why am I doing this?” Keep reminding yourself because each day you are one step closer to fulfillment.